Telling other people
You may need to tell family, friends, and other people, that you have cancer. Only you can decide who you want to tell, and when you want to tell them.
Talking about your cancer can be difficult and uncomfortable, but a little preparation can help.
Telling family and friends
If you are having trouble deciding how to share the news, preparation can help. You could do this by deciding how much information you want to share about your diagnosis. Some examples of things you might want to tell are:
- what type of cancer you have
- what treatment you might need
- what your prognosis is.
It may be difficult, but people often find that telling their loved ones they have cancer is a relief. It can also help the reality of the situation to sink in. Telling people about your cancer also allows them to offer support.
Planning also helps when you are deciding when and how to tell children that you have cancer. Think about how much you want to tell them, and the way you want to say it.
Children’s understanding and their reactions to the news depend on their age. Young children don’t need much information, while older children and teenagers need to know more.
You may also want to give some extra reassurance to your children, for example:
- It is not their fault that you are sick.
- It is not possible to catch cancer from someone else.
- They do not have to feel alone, as family members will be there to support each other.
- You still love them as much as you always did, even if having treatment means you may have less time to spend with them for a while.
You are the best judge of when and where to tell your children. You may want to tell them together as a family, or alone so you can tailor the information to the age of each child. Whichever way you choose, it can be a good idea to choose a quiet time when you won’t be disturbed.
Telling people at work
If you work, you may want to think about whether to tell your work colleagues, and how much you want them to know. Keep in mind that you may need to tell a manager or supervisor that you have a medical condition, in case you need to take some time off work.
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